2026-09-13
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2026-09-12
Networking backlog for dating
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- Just reading Cate Hall's book, "You can just do things". It motivated me to make a backlog of ideas I have for dating, even if I will never go implement them.
- For work too, I have a networking backlog. (It includes crazy but high leverage ideas like go stand in high footfall places in blr with an ASI risk poster.) I just ended up deciding that actual direct work is higher leverage. If I actually hack more than $10M worth of value, that will all by itself solve the networking problem by a lot. (I will not be that surprised if having $10M networth as a hacker and making a good enough pitch is enough to send a personal note to Modi and Putin and Xi Jinping, for example.)
- For dating too, maybe it is worth creating a backlog even if I have no immediate plans to act on any of it.
(In case someone else is reading this list, yes I am aware some of these ideas can backfire, especially if implemented poorly. I'm intentionally not going into the details of that right now.)
Backlog of networking ideas
- Record hobby videos for hinge profile
- Figure out a way to date outside your socioeconomic class. Example - actually go back and live in Kohima for another 6 months (but there should be ways to do this in blr too.) I genuinely don't mind dating outside my class as long as 1-2 other criteria are satisfied, and I am automatically high status to a significant fraction of people outside my class.
- Figure out a way to date in a community with a high base rate for people in relationships. Example - Kohima again lmao
- Just do the whole cold approach spam thing. Literally cold approach hundreds of women in-person, day in and day out. Expect most approaches to fail.
- Cold emails and twitter DMs. Get lists of people from personal blogs or twitter, and figure out a way to cold DM everyone. (Literally sending your dating profile is probably too escalatory, but there's probably a slightly less escalatory message you can send.)
- Literally create a fake profile. Ask AI to generate a profile with whatever high status signals these braindead women appreciate, like cars or meetings with famous people or whatever.
- Literally become a sex worker for some niche where males are still needed.
- (The idea I already partially implemented.) Learn a hobby like dance or massage or similar, that has a decent ratio and is mildly escalatory (but not insanely escalatory in the way that say, being a sex worker is.)
- Actually take this idea further. Go join a hobby group or skill whose ratio is extremely skewed towards women, like idk, become a makeup artist maybe? Or a flight attendant.
- Host a meetup for something you actually like, such as board games. Make it easy for your friends to invite friends-of-friends and friends-of-friends-of-friends.
- Literally go start an org that protects women from control of parents and spouses and similar. See also: StBroseph
- Actually go further. Start an org that teaches women (and a bunch of other minority groups) to shoot, or to illegally stockpile weapons, or similar.
- Go to Thailand and find a contract wife who does not actually love you.
- Start an org that teaches people how to get good at sex and seduction.
- Start an org that helps solves people's marriage issues. Become a spiritual leader lmao.
- (idk maybe no more "start an org" ideas, they're too much effort)
- Cold DM the CEO of some dating app and figure out a reward you can get them, such that they bias the app in your favour.
- Literally start a dating app cause why not. (This violates the "no more start an org" rule)
- Find someone who actually believes in your ASI risk cause and wants to help you. Convince them that the best way they can help you in your cause is to find you a partner (since currently you are wasting a lot of time and energy on the search, and also probably being less happy as a result of being single). Delegate the entire problem to them.
- Cold email female prisoners who desperately want a way out.
- (lol at this point I think I am just extending this list for the memes, I seem to have run out of serious ideas.)
- Leave India for a country where more people are openly poly. (Very obvious but worth restating)
- Become a standup comedian. Score high on the humour metric.
- (ok I got bored, ending this list for now)
- Raise funding for your ASI risk project. Again, to repeat, the median women is Retarded and appreciates status signals such as this one. (Very obvious but worth restating.)
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